How many times have you heard this phrase? Especially when it comes to justifying mindset work? Sales pages are rife with it and variations on the theme. Like there’s something else you need, and if you don’t get that you won’t succeed. It plays into the magic fix mentality. What got you here won’t get you there so better buy my thing.
There is NOTHING ‘wrong’ with what got you here! How much stuff have you managed to deal with in your life? How many stressful events? And how many things that tested you beyond limits? Relationships. Family. Moving house. Health issues. Changing jobs. Having those challenging conversations. Running a half marathon (just me?).
Some of these challenges we enter into willingly. Others we don’t get a choice.
What Got You Here
We overlook how much we’ve achieved by focussing on the gap. If only I’d run a bit faster I’d have been 2 hours and 20 minutes rather than 2 hours and 24 minutes. Heck, I just ran the further I’ve ever run in my life and I don’t exactly have a runners physique. We overlook how much knowledge and experience and we’ve gain. How we’ve built our resilience, skills and self-awareness. How many times have we had to gather our courage, determination and resources?
“What got us here” was enough to overcome those challenges! But suddenly it’s not enough? That’s the thing I dislike about this statement, it implies something is missing or wrong with who you are now.
Going Forward
So how are you going to get to where you want to go? You have to choose.
You have to assess what you think you need to get there. There might be knowledge or experience gaps to fill because they do exist. You might need to work on believing it’s possible, believing you, yes you, can do it. Or you might want to draw on the experience of others to guide you through the process.
Getting help isn’t a bad thing but you need some objectivity on whether that’s the thing YOU need.
The Key Question
Do you want to change?
Is being comfortable more important than achieving your dream outcome? Or is achieving the goal worth the discomfort?
This came up for me last week I was looking at my money story and saw a pattern of delaying spending [and even deciding] until ‘one day’. Now that pattern has served me in lots of ways. Not being subject to instant gratification tendencies has saved me HEAPS of money over the course of my lifetime. But what has that same pattern cost me? Hours of overthinking. Missing out on items I decided I wanted because they’d run out or been discontinued. Feeling bad about wanting to spend money on ‘frivolous’ things.
Taking inventory of what got you here, all the things you survived, all the places you’ve thrived is a great mindset exercise. Looking back can help you to see how awesome you truly are. And you can probably find in that list lots of potential areas for support to get you where you want to go. Identify the gaps and start filling them. But don’t ignore what got you here, that made you who you are! And there are valuable insights on how you can achieve those dreams based on how you’ve achieved things in the past.
If you need help figuring out why you are awesome and how to get ‘there’ then get in touch for a free discovery session.
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